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On Gratitude, Uber, and the Magic of the Everyday

August 18, 2016 by Jessica Leave a Comment

It’s surprisingly easy to look at the negative in a situation, especially when the circumstances are stressful or otherwise outside your control.

Take this past weekend, for example.

We were on our way home from visiting family. It was a 90+ degree day, and we had the dogs with us and a cooler full of food in the truck. We stopped for gas about halfway home, and when we got ready to leave the gas station the truck wouldn’t start.

Nothing. No click when we turned the key. Not even a jump start worked.

It was past 5 pm on a Sunday, which meant that most businesses were closed for the day, if they had even been open in the first place. We were stranded in the middle of nowhere, far from home, with two overheating dogs and a cooler full of melting ice.

And there was nothing that we could do to change the situation.

Sounds like the setup for a really crappy evening, right?

The way it really happened

Every piece of information you just read is true.

But that’s not the experience I had.

Yes, it was stressful. And I will admit to sliding briefly through a “woe is me” moment or two as the situation unfolded.

But instead of being overcome by the stress of what was happening I got to witness the beauty of humanity and technology, and perhaps experience a bit of serendipity.

The first person we asked at the gas station was more than happy to take a few minutes and try to give us a jump start. Even though it didn’t work, he was friendly and gracious and wished us luck.

We called our insurance company to get the truck towed home. Score one for roadside assistance.

And as we were considering the prospect of getting two people and two dogs home in the back of a tow truck, I had a brief flash of hope.

Uber: fallibility and the flip side

There’s no lack of controversy when it comes to Uber. From stories of sexual assault, sexism, and misogyny to cutting driver earnings and getting banned from cities around the US, the company isn’t exactly earning public trust or a stellar track record.

But in a situation where your options are few and far between, sometimes even the bad guy can ride in on a white horse.

As you will recall, we weren’t stranded in the middle of an urban center. It wasn’t completely the middle of nowhere, but the chances of me finding an Uber driver in the area were slim to none. As a company, they’re fairly new to Charlottesville and we were at least 30 minutes outside of the city limits.

I opened the app, and saw a driver. Singular. The car was 10 minutes away, driving in the opposite direction.

And I wondered, “what is the pet policy on Uber?” After checking, and seeing that it’s totally up to the driver, I requested a ride and gave her a call.

Telling her the details of our situation and explaining that we also had two 50 pound dogs with us, I told her that I totally understood if she didn’t want to accept the fare.

She told me she would be there in 15 minutes.

I’ll admit that I got a little teary right that moment, filled with gratitude. The dogs and I would make it home. We didn’t have to wait long in the oppressive heat, and our ride wouldn’t be the back of a tow truck.

Our knight in shining armor turned out to be a middle-aged lady from Baltimore driving a Lincoln. She just happened to be in the area visiting her boyfriend, and had decided to take a drive while he was at work.

The kicker: she had turned around to go home for the evening but decided to keep her Uber app open for a few more minutes. Even a short amount of time later, and she wouldn’t have been around to drive us home.

Stop, and reframe the experience

Add to this story of a tow truck driver who waited around with my partner until animal control came to pick up a chihuahua (that he found wandering around while he was waiting for the second tow truck of the day) and you have a set of circumstances that renewed my faith in the inherent goodness of humanity.

The world feels like it’s a wild, scary, and out of control place these days, but we see so much of the ugly that we sometimes forget about the rest of humanity…

The decent, honest, and friendly folks just trying to make their way through the world. The majority you never hear about, who spend their days living quiet lives and sometimes bringing joy to the world with random acts of kindness.

Our neighbors offered to lend vehicles and give us rides while the truck was in the shop. And the neighbor who was taking care of our garden over the long weekend had mowed our yard while we were gone, just because.

Instead of enduring a terrible, stressful experience I ended the day with a heart full of gratitude and a story to tell.

Finding magic in small moments

As I wrap up this post, a note: I realize that I live a life full of very real privilege. Being a well-educated white female, I don’t experience the same prejudice that others face. I don’t know what it’s like to experience life from any perspective but my own.

But I do believe there’s a magic to the everyday, if we just allow it in.

If you had put me in this situation 10 years ago, I’m fairly certain my reaction would not have been the same.

I’ve been practicing yoga for about six years now, and meditating regularly for the past two and a half. The high strung, type A+ personality is still there, but it’s been tempered by practices that allow me to have space between my thoughts and emotions, my body, and the world.

My morning meditation (a Pilgrim meditation from Britt B Steele, an amazing teacher from Portland) includes this:

There is a knowing that bubbles, rises, and reveals each day, each moment as choice, not chore. This revelation is laced with potential, possibility…”

Sitting down to meditate while I waited for my partner to make it home that evening, I was struck by that line.

Choice. Not chore.

Life is a series of moments, each with the potential to be beautiful or terrible (or if we’re being honest, somewhere in between).

So in those moments where it’s easy to find the negative, can you find the choice hidden in the situation? Can you open yourself to possibility? Can you find the good in the world?

It’s not easy and it’s not something that comes naturally at first, but I believe that our lives – and our world – will be better for it.

Filed Under: Transforming Humanity Tagged With: mindfulness, world changing

Rebel Yogi Roundup: Volume III

August 4, 2016 by Jessica Leave a Comment

How is it August already?

While the summer has sped by, there has been no shortage of great content. And since the summer months are made for fun and relaxation, this month’s roundup includes some fun and hilarious stories from around the web.

Here’s the best of the best, curated from my reading over the past few weeks.

The Surprising Benefit of Being Bad at Yoga

In this hilarious and poignant post, a yoga overachiever goes from trying too hard to be perfect to feeling comfortable in her own body.

I was struggling so much that all I could focus on was the truly important stuff. And being perfect simply wasn’t important.”

6 Scientifically Proven Benefits Of Mindfulness And Meditation

It seems like meditation is all the rage these days. And with more and more scientific data backing up the claims, it’s for a good reason.

We now have the ability to do the one thing that was never possible before—see how these practices change the wiring and the makeup of our brains.”

tension-relaxation

5 Signs it’s Time to Do Less

Marc takes a look at our culture’s tendency to do more, more, more. Contrary to popular belief, more does not necessarily make us happier.

Most of us have a tendency to do as much as we possibly can – cramming every waking minute with events, extravagances, tasks and obligations. We think doing more will get us more satisfaction, success, etc.  When oftentimes the exact opposite is true.”

I Switched to a Standing Desk, So Now You Should, Too

In this hilarious, satirical look at the standing desk craze, Tom lays out the facts he believes about standing… at least until the next WebMD article comes out.

Sitting… looks ridiculous and shameful—like you’re afraid to admit exactly how tall you are—and is terrible for you. The human body simply wasn’t meant to be folded up for long stretches, like a sad pretzel. It was meant to be held ramrod-straight at all times, like a noble pretzel stick.”

whole-world

From the science behind mindfulness to a couple of reminders to do less (and take ourselves less seriously), this month’s roundup was a lot of fun to put together.

Let me know what you think of the series — anything you’d like to see more of, less of— or, if you’ve read anything recently that should go into the next roundup!

Until next month…

Filed Under: Resourcing the Revolution Guides Tagged With: braiiiins, mindfulness, self care

Rebel Yogi Roundup: Volume I

May 11, 2016 by Jessica Leave a Comment

Sometimes, it feels like there’s so much content getting churned out every day that you’ll never keep up. Or, like you might drown in the process of trying to “drink from the firehose.”

But there’s always that fear of missing out, of finally reading the post that makes everything click.

And so you keep gulping away at the stream, just hoping to keep up. (Or maybe you’ve already given up, realizing that you’ll never keep up, so why bother?)

Well…

What if you didn’t have to keep up with the mad rush of content?

What if you could quietly do your own thing all month, and then get some of the best posts on creating sustainable work-life balance delivered right to you?

You’ve probably figured it out by now, but that’s what this new post series aims to do: I’ll drink from the firehose for you, and once a month I’ll give you the best of what I’ve read.

So step away from the overwhelming amount of info, sit back, and relax.

Here’s your curated content for the month of May.

Enjoy!

Against Productivity

Quinn writes about the move to Puerto Rico that was supposed to change everything. Instead, realizing that the dream of “making every moment count” was killing us, Quinn ended up examining a period of time “wasted” and realizing that we all need to be bored more often.

Even my leisure time had to be productive: Was I having enough fun? Was I sufficiently recharged for my next round of work? Was I getting enough out of the island?”

Stop Trying To Be Present

Tim invites us to spend our energy becoming vulnerable, and learning how to be truly present, even in the tough times.

The problem I have is that many people spend inordinate amounts of time trying to be present, without even reflecting on why that’s what they want, or even what it really means.”

How Can the U.S. Make Life Less Draining for Workers?

Are you one of the “lucky” ones who gets to work from home? In this piece, Rebecca examines what exactly that flexibility can cost you.

There can also be negative consequences to ‘flexibility’: often, workers who have the ‘perk’ of working from home wind up working even more hours in order to prove their worth. In some ways, ‘flexibility’ might be lead to even more hours devoted to work and fewer devoted to self-care or family or friends.”

dont-have-all-day

The Reductive Seduction of Other People’s Problems

Courtney digs deep into what happens when well-intentioned people try to solve other people’s problems, without acknowledging the underlying complexity. Because other people’s problems can’t be that difficult to solve, can they?

Are you quietly haunted by the possibility that you aren’t the right person to be enacting change? Feeling noble at times, but disconnected from your own home, your own family, your own friends. You burn out…
There’s a better way. For all of us.”

News Flash: Fear Does Not Respond Well to Self-Discipline

Jennifer takes a tongue-in-cheek look at what happens when we try to relax and let ourselves just be… and the “shoulds” start creeping in.

Cue productive morning rituals! Cue impossible high bars! Cue subtle, hectoring inner talk. Cue crash.”

How Making Time for Books Made Me Feel Less Busy

Hugh tackles the very issue that prompted this post series — information overload. He delves into neuroscience, and looks at why funny cat videos on YouTube are rewiring our brain, and how reading good old fashioned books can help us bring back the ability to actually focus.

We are still learning how to live in this information ecosystem, and how to build the ecosystem for humans rather than for the information. We will get better at it—as humans, and as builders of technology.”

permission-to-rest

So, I hope that you enjoyed this small sampling of posts from around the web.

I also hope that you’ll take the extra time this month to go do something fun, instead of getting all wrapped up in the FOMO of the online firehose.

And, let me know what you think of the series — anything you’d like to see more of, less of? Let me know, and I’ll curate according to audience demand!

Until next month…

Filed Under: Resourcing the Revolution Guides Tagged With: balance, mindfulness

The Rebel Yogi Guide to the 8 Limbs of Yoga: Stillness

August 20, 2014 by Jessica Leave a Comment

This August I want to take you deeper into the full practice of yoga. This means that we’re going to explore the 8 limbs of yoga from the perspective of the worldchanger. I’ll do my best to help you answer the question “just what are these 8 limbs, and what the heck do they have to do with me?”

Over the last few weeks we began an exploration of Asana, the physical practice of yoga; Yama, the abstentions; Niyama, the observances; and Pranayama, breathing. We will now move on to the topic of stillness, which encompasses the last 4 of the limbs of yoga – Pratyahara, Dharana, Dhyana and Samadhayah. Even though the last four limbs are considered to be the most important along the yogic path, they go deeper into practice and philosophy than I’m interested in taking you, hence the short and sweet recap. This will be our final chapter in this series!

We’ll look at the sanskrit for each of these four limbs first.

Pratyahara = withdrawal of the senses

In our seeking to still the mind, the senses often cause distraction. The eyes find things to focus on that bring thoughts to the mind, the nose smells things that cause us to feel hunger, the ears hear things that engage the mind… The senses are a gateway of sorts, allowing the outside world to come in. When we turn the senses outward, we take in the world, but if we allow the senses to draw inward, there’s nothing to distract us; this allows us to move on to the next limb.

Dharana = concentration

This can also be thought of as the binding of the mind to a single place, object or idea. Concentration begins to train the mind, getting us ready to meditate. When the mind inevitably wanders from that single focus, we bring it back – over, and over, and over again. In his commentary, Swami Satchidananda compares this process to training a monkey; in our Raja class during teacher training, our mind-monkey was often described as being drunk and stung by a scorpion. So give yourself a break when the mind wanders – it’s a tricky beast to train!

Dhyana = meditation

We reach the state of dhyana when concentration becomes effortless, and turns into meditation. What most beginning meditators are actually doing is just concentrating really hard; there’s nothing wrong with it, it’s just the first step along a long path. During true meditation, it often feels as though time is transcended. An hour of meditation can feel like only five minutes has passed.

Samadhayah = a superconscious state / contemplation

Samadhi can also be explained as mental detachment or tranquility of mind. Edwin Bryant describes samadhi as when the mind is so fully absorbed in the object of meditation that it loses all notions of itself as a self-conscious, reflective mind.

These four final limbs are more internal than the first four. We have moved from external (the body and the breath, with Asana and Pranayama) to internal through the course of our exploration. What we find is that if the body is still, it is easier to make the mind still. Through the body, we can control the mind; the mind ultimately needs the body’s cooperation to accomplish anything.

So why is stillness important to us?

In our search for balance and quiet, it means we must first be still. We can’t hope to find relief for the high amounts of stress around us in the world while we’re running around like madmen. It’s when we become still and quiet that we begin to find that capacity within ourselves.

We sometimes get hung up on this idea that in order to “successfully” meditate that we have to sit down for 30 minutes or an hour. Then we think about all the other things we have to do, and we end up doing nothing. It’s like the “all or nothing” trap I wrote about a couple of months ago. But we’re going to start breaking out of that cycle, right?

Here’s my challenge to you:

Find a few minutes every day to just sit still. Find someplace you find beautiful, and just absorb the scene around you. Focus on the beauty, and see if you can’t let your mind be still for just those few minutes. Your to-do list will still be waiting for you after you’re done, but maybe you’ll feel a little more calm as you begin to tackle it.

If you find that even sitting still doesn’t work, take a look at the yoga nidra practice that I shared two weeks ago. 20 minutes, even just a couple of times a week, can help you to find complete stillness, and then maybe you will be able to find a little bit of silence in the mind as well.

It’s not going to be easy. Remember, we’re taming and training a drunk, angry monkey. But, it’s worth it – being able to find a moment of stillness and peace here and there can mean the difference between being over the top stressed out or being able to take that stress in stride. I shared a quote on Facebook last week that I think fits well with this idea:

Peace. It does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble or hard work. It means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart.”

Like I said, it takes time, but the best time to start is now. One step at a time, one day at a time, one breath at a time. Find some stillness this week, and let me know if it changes anything!

These explorations of the Yoga Sutras have been fueled by both the Edwin Bryant and Swami Satchidananda commentaries.

Filed Under: Resourcing the Revolution Guides Tagged With: 8 limbs of yoga, mindfulness

The Rebel Yogi Guide to the 8 Limbs of Yoga: Niyama

July 16, 2014 by Jessica Leave a Comment

This July I want to take you deeper into the full practice of yoga. This means that we’re going to explore the 8 limbs of yoga from the perspective of the world-changer. I’ll do my best to help you answer the question “just what are these 8 limbs, and what the heck do they have to do with me?”

Last week we began with an exploration of Yama, the abstentions, and now this week we’ll move on to the second limb of yoga: Niyama, the observances.

In the same way that the Yamas are the things we shouldn’t do, the Niyamas are the things that we should do. If you remember from last week’s post, we can also look at the Yamas as external work and the Niyamas as internal work; the Yamas produce their effects without being aided by any other factors, but the Niyamas are dependent on the successful cultivation of the Yamas to reach their full effect.

Similar to the first post, we’ll break each of the Niyamas into the sanskrit name, its general translation, and then a quick exploration of what each means for us in this particular context. And again, look for the patterns and the places that each of these recommendations overlaps with the others.

Sauca = Purity or cleanliness

This translates to purity of body, thought, word and deed. It can be broken down into external (the body) and internal (the mind, your attitude).

We can take this niyama literally, but also to mean embracing simplicity. When our lives are simpler, there is less to manage, and we tend to be happier. Add simplicity together with keeping the things that come into our bodies and minds pure, and we are better able to maintain a calm and steady mind. This in turn leads to generally being less stressed.

Santosa = Contentment

In this case, contentment means being just as we are, without relying on outside things for our happiness, to neither like nor dislike.

We can also look at Santosa as coming into right relationship with life, being able to surf the up and down waves that life brings our way. We can cultivate joy and gratitude, and focus on being present to the current moment – not living in the past or the future.

Tapah = Austerity

This one gets a bit more difficult to fit into a modern-society context; one literal translation means to accept pain without causing it. For this Niyama and the ones following, we’re going to take a more modern (read: less literal) exploration.

We can break this Niyama down by looking at a situation where someone says something mean or hurtful to you, and rather than retaliating or responding in kind, we simply choose to walk away from the situation. We could also look at this in a different light: as determination and perseverance through struggle, or simply the hard work that is required to attain a lofty goal.

Svadhyaya = Spiritual study

While the literal interpretation means the study of “scriptures and spiritual texts” or “practices that we have been initiated into”, I rather like the way that Jackie Dumaine looks at Svadhyaya. To do this, we take “study” to mean self-inquiry, exploration or observation.

This can mean that we are our own ultimate guru: we have all the answers within us, but we have to sit still and contemplate long enough to find them. We can also explore why we do the things that we do, and what our behaviors mean; for example, why we set an alarm with the intention to get up at a certain hour and then hit the snooze button for 30 minutes; why we talk about doing things like getting exercise and eating well but then don’t follow up; and other behaviors of a similar nature.

Isvara pranidhana = Surrender

The final Niyama means total surrender, allowing us to attain Samadhi (tranquility of mind).

Isvara pranidhana asks that we allow ourselves to flow; to do our own work, and then to get out of the way and surrender to what is and will be. We can do anything and everything as long as we do it with the idea of serving the world at large. The biggest piece of this is letting go of the things that we can’t control.

So how can the second limb of Yoga be integrated into your life, or your work? My guess is that you’re already practicing quite a bit of this without even knowing it. During the coming week, maybe try to pay attention to when and where you notice both the Yamas and Niyamas coming up in your everyday life, and feel free to get in touch with any comments or questions.

These explorations of the Yoga Sutras are being fueled by both the Edwin Bryant and Swami Satchidananda commentaries. I have also referenced the Yoga Code by Jackie Dumaine for this week’s post.

Filed Under: Resourcing the Revolution Guides Tagged With: 8 limbs of yoga, mindfulness

The Rebel Yogi Guide to the 8 Limbs of Yoga: Yama

July 9, 2014 by Jessica Leave a Comment

If you recall from last week’s post about Asana, this July I want to take you deeper into the full practice of yoga. This month, we’re going to explore the 8 limbs of yoga from the perspective of the world-changer. Just what are these 8 limbs, and what the heck do they have to do with me?

This week we begin an exploration of Yama, the abstentions, and next week we’ll move on to Niyama, the observances.

Yes, in a literal sense Yama refers to abstaining, otherwise known as “the things we shouldn’t do”. But before we get wrapped up in rules and regulations, just remember that these are guidelines along the path, road markers to guide our footsteps, and not absolutes. We can also look at the Yamas as external work and the Niyamas as internal work; the Yamas produce their effects without being aided by any other factors, but the Niyamas are dependent on the successful cultivation of the Yamas to reach their full effect.

Hang in there. This piece feels huge, and it’s a lot of information, but I’m going to do my best to make it as easily understandable as I can. We’ll break each of the Yamas into the sanskrit name, its general translation, and then a quick exploration of what each means for us in this particular context. You will likely start to see a pattern, that each of the Yamas interacts and overlaps with the others!

Ahimsa = Nonviolence

The first of the Yamas (which is the first limb of yoga) is understood to be the most important of the bunch. The literal translation means that we should not injure (or cause pain to) any living creature anywhere at any time.

What we can take away from the idea of nonviolence should also extend to ourselves; having kindness and compassion toward ourselves and others can be one of the hardest things that we do. At its root, practicing ahimsa means that we should be non-violent in thought, word and deed. This idea extends into diet, as well; in the strictest sense, a vegetarian or vegan diet is a requirement for a yogi, according to the Sutras.

Satya = Truthfulness

This one is fairly simple in its translation – one’s words and thoughts should be in exact correspondence to fact.

This one is also pretty simple on the outside: tell the truth. But it goes a little deeper, teaching us that our speech should not be deceitful or misleading, and should be for the benefit of all others. We can also dig a little deeper to ask if we are being true to ourselves, in our lives, our actions and our thoughts.

There is one exception – truth must never cause harm or result in violence (see above for Ahimsa). If there is a conflict between two tenets of the Yamas, then Ahimsa must always take precedence. “One should not tell the truth unkindly.” According to the Edwin Bryant commentaries, this includes not always speaking bluntly and truthfully to people about their shortcomings (aka: being tactful). Truthfulness should bring benefit to someone, and harm to no one.

Asteya = Non-stealing

This Yama translates to both not stealing (taking things belonging to others) and also to not harboring the desire to do so.

We can look at this in different ways: always being on time and being respectful of other people’s time – if you’re late to a meeting, you are stealing time from someone else; another way to look at this on an individual level is to allow yourself the opportunity to reach your full potential – if you don’t, you may very well be stealing something from yourself. And, really, the world needs you to reach your awesome full potential!

Brahmacarya = Moderation

Confession – the literal translation of this one is usually celibacy or abstinence from sexual indulgence, but we’re going to look at this a different way.

I think the more applicable way to look at Brahmacarya is to explain it as moderation in all things. We don’t want to eat too much, sleep too much, spend too much… Here we find the idea that we are able to figure out what “enough” means in our individual context, and then only do that much of whatever it is we’re talking about. It’s finding the balance: not eating too little, or too much, but just enough to keep us healthy and happy. It’s like Michael Pollan’s recent explanation of the diet that’s healthiest for both us and the planet: “Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants.”

Aparigraha = Non-attachment

This can be viewed as the renunciation of unnecessary possessions, not accumulating beyond our capacity to use things in the proper ways.

We can also look at this one as not becoming attached to thoughts, ideas or routines, as well as possessions. The past few years have seen a rise in the minimalist movement – people who want to live a simpler lifestyle, finding freedom from “stuff” by not assigning too much meaning to our possessions, and making decisions about what does come into their lives in a very conscious manner (see this post by Joshua and Ryan of the Minimalists for a great explanation).

Whew. That feels like quite a bit to chew on, so we’ll leave the discussion here. As I mentioned above, next week’s post will begin to delve into the Niyamas, which build upon what we’ve covered today. There’s no test, I promise!

So how can the first limb of Yoga be integrated into your life, or your work? My guess is that you’re already practicing quite a bit of this without even knowing it. During the coming week, maybe try to pay attention to when and where you notice the Yamas coming up in your everyday life, and feel free to get in touch with any comments or questions.

These explorations of the Yoga Sutras are being fueled by both the Edwin Bryant and Swami Satchidananda commentaries. I have also referenced the Yoga Code by Jackie Dumaine for this week’s post.

Filed Under: Resourcing the Revolution Guides Tagged With: 8 limbs of yoga, mindfulness

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