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Bookworm! (or: recapturing a lost love)

June 12, 2012 by Jessica Leave a Comment

bookworm_640Confession: I used to be a huge bookworm.

I taught myself to read when I was young. (Before you give me too much credit, my parents read to me every night from the time I was a baby, and I know that I picked up a lot of my reading comprehension from that activity.) If my memory serves, it was when I was around the age of 6 that I had a reading primer that I carried around with me, sounding out letters and picking out the familiar pieces. It didn’t take long to start piecing together words out of letters, and soon sentences out of words.

And then? I was hooked.

You couldn’t take me anywhere without a book. My parents severely limited the amount of television I watched (one show during the week, and one on the weekend – thanks, mom!), so I had lots of time to be a kid – I ran around outside and played with my dogs, kept myself entertained for hours in some part of my imagination or other, and read voraciously.

This carried on through elementary school and into middle school. Even when I entered high school, I kept my face in one book or another – AP English classes, stuff I read on my own, books my parents kept on the bookshelves at our house – it was all fair game. When I was in high school, I worked at an art gallery during semester breaks, and I read behind the counter when no customers were around; those summers, I would tear through a novel every day.

Then, college hit. I was in the Honors program at JMU my freshman year, as well as being in the marching band and the countless hours of required classes and ensembles for my major. I stopped reading for pleasure, because I simply had too much other work to do. My hours were precious, and usually spent in the basement of the music building.

Cue graduation from college, starting a teaching career, and the years that passed afterwards…

Somewhere along the way, I lost my love of reading. It got delegated to the “things that take time I don’t have” list, and started to gather dust. There have been several attempts to pick back up where I left off over the past decade, but none have stuck.

Now? It’s time for a change. A couple of weeks ago, I wrote about why it’s important to spend your life learning, and reading is a huge part of that for me. To be a great writer, one must consume vast quantities of great literature, and success points to those who take time to read. I read a blog article recently that indicated that the most successful writers and bloggers usually read a book a week.

Just this morning, I read a Matt Madeiro post titled “How to Start Reading” – a timely reminder that building a habit has less to do with forcing yourself to get back into something, and more to do with taking small, consistent, achievable steps in the right direction. If you’re having a hard time finding your way back into your reading habit, I highly recommend that you pop over and read that article.

I’m taking bigger steps right now. I’m reading a Paul Theroux book at the moment, in preparation for my cross country Amtrak trip to Portland, OR. I leave in a couple of weeks, and I want to write about the trip – the Theroux is providing amazing motivation.

And, in the name of continuing education, I have a stack of yet unread books awaiting my hungry eyes. This is one restart that I intend to keep rolling – even if I have to go so far as scheduling in time for reading, it’s important enough that I’ll do it.

How about you, dear reader? What have you been reading recently, or are you like me and in need of a restart?

If so – small steps. Or big steps. Whatever works for you – just start!

Filed Under: Writing Tagged With: inspiration, life lessons, wisdom

Whoops! (or: why you shouldn’t listen to me)

January 24, 2012 by Jessica Leave a Comment

whoops_640Yup. You read that title right. You definitely shouldn’t be listening to me.

Why, you ask?

Well, would you listen to someone who screws things up? Would you take advice from someone who has made her fair share of bad decisions?

(I’m hoping that by now you kinda get the direction I’m going with this, and that you haven’t given up on me yet.)

Still here? Good. Because this part is worth sticking around for.

I have definitely made mistakes through my 30-some years on this planet. But, I make a point to learn from those mistakes, and my hope is that by sharing both the mistakes and lessons learned, you can gain something from my experience.

While this blog post isn’t long enough to cover every mistake I’ve ever made (I’d need a book for that), I do want to share a few key lessons.

1. CYA

I try to have an optimistic outlook on life, see beyond the clouds and not dwell on the craptastic parts of life.

However, no matter what your life outlook, if you’re not looking out for yourself in this world, you can sure as hell bet ain’t no one else lookin’ out for you (terrible grammar intended).

Look out for number one. Make sure that you have your needs covered before you go focusing on anyone else… because rainbows and ponies aren’t going to put a roof over your head and food on your plate, or get you where you really want to go in life.

I always secretly laughed at anyone who recommended keeping a separate bank account from your spouse once you got married. Scoffing, I thought to myself, “but my marriage is going to last forever. We’re in love, and that’s all that matters. Til death and all that jazz.”

Hmm. See anything wrong with that picture? Yeah, I thought so.

The good news in my case is that I have an incredibly awesome ex-husband, and my situation turned out okay. There are lots of people who can’t say the same.

CYA, honey. You can still have a rosy outlook on life, but it’s always good to have a plan for when things aren’t so hot.

2. Don’t assume

My mom always used to tell me, “don’t assume; it makes an ass out of you and me.” (ass = u + me). I used to roll my eyes at her when she said things like that; funny how our moms get so wise once we get older.

This one has bitten me in the ass more than once recently.

Prime example:

In Virginia, a name change is no longer included in the divorce declaration. (No matter how many times you bring it up with the attorney).

This one cost me at least a month of running back and forth to the clerk’s office, trying desperately to get my name change paperwork official, so that I could move on with my life.

Second example, same situation:

Don’t assume that when your husband hires an attorney for “both” of you, that she gives a damn about anyone but him. I found out this the hard way, when “our” attorney refused to speak with me about the case.

Again, awesome ex – things turned out fine… but. It could have been a bad situation.

3. Measure twice, cut once

My dad is a jack of all trades; he makes his living as a woodworker – cabinet and furniture maker, restores old houses, builds new ones, etc. He taught me this one, and it has always stuck with me.

That being said, I interpret it in a different way these days.

Always double check your information. And?

Read the damn instructions.

This one bit me in the ass with the DMV. It took me three trips to get my name updated on my license, and countless painful hours waiting in line and arguing with clerks before I was successful.

The reason this time? Well, I assumed (see #2) that since the Social Security Administration took my divorce decree as enough proof of a name change, that the DMV would as well.

WRONG.

Do me a favor – before you head to any government establishment to do anything, make sure that you know exactly what paperwork they require, and the steps you need to follow.

4. Finally: trust yourself

My favorite lesson of all has to be when I knew the steps I needed to take, and I listened to the Clerk of the Court who said, “no, I don’t need a copy of the decree. All I need is this form.”

Well, he *was* the clerk of the court. He must know what he’s doing, right?

WRONG.

Fast forward a month, and having to resubmit my paperwork because it was… wait for it… missing a copy of the decree. Mmmhmm.

So.

Now you know why you shouldn’t listen to me. Maybe you got a laugh out of my debacles… but what I really hope is that you have at least learned something from my mistakes.

Because if I can save you from making the same mistakes… then I’ve done something good.

One more saying, just for the heck of it: Fool me once…

Care to share in the merriment? Leave a comment with a life lesson learned below, or hit me up on twitter, Google+. I would love to learn something from you, too!

Filed Under: Writing Tagged With: change, life lessons, wisdom

Inspiration (and when to listen to that fortune cookie)

November 15, 2011 by Jessica Leave a Comment

inspiration_640Remember how your mom always told you not to play with your food? Well, I’m here to tell you otherwise. Or… at least to tell you that sometimes it has something worth saying. Err… too much of a stretch? Probably, but stick with me!

One of my favorite parts of eating Chinese food (other than the many delicious vegan options on the menu) is the fortune cookie at the end. Not so much the cookie itself (because, eew) but for that tiny strip of paper inside.

There is also a series of inspirational quotes hidden inside each individual wrapper of a certain brand of dark chocolate. The quotes give you something to ponder as you indulge in that little piece of chocolaty heaven.

People find inspiration in many places, in all different shapes and sizes, colors and words and the like. As someone who loves food, I also love that I can find inspiration at the end of a meal.

So tonight, on this cold, grey, rainy autumn night (at least on the east coast), I want to share with you a few bits of inspiration that I have gleaned from my desert:

“Don’t settle for a spark… light a fire instead.”

“Live your dreams.”

“You don’t get in life what you want; you get in life what you are.”

“A great pleasure in life is doing what others say you can’t.”

I have each of these tiny bits of wisdom taped to my monitor, as a reminder of who I am and the choices I have made along the way.

How about you? How and where do you find inspiration?

Filed Under: Writing Tagged With: inspiration, life lessons, wisdom

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